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The controversy surrounding sex dolls

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One of the prayers family members and well-wishers wish for couples on their wedding day is for them to be blessed with good children.

This signifies that couples are expected to co-habit before kids come though it is not the only way to have babies. However, sex is a vital issue in marriage. A psychologist, Prof. Oni Fagbounge, described sex as an integral part of any marriage.

“It is one of the ingredients that make a marriage work. That is why at the initial stage, when the couple is courting, a marriage counsellor will talk about the importance of sex in marriage and that is, sexual compatibility,” Fagbohungbe stated.

According to the don, sex is a physiological need just like food and when a person is not satisfied, it can leave them in a state of deprivation.

Sex experts noted that the situation has led society into being sex-crazed, and people trying new ways with technological advancement to derive sexual satisfaction. One of the latest inventions is sex dolls which have left many married and unmarried couples thinking of how to add spark to their sex lives to avoid losing their partners to the dolls.

Online source defined sex dolls as a type of sex toy or robot in the size and shape of a sexual partner for aid in masturbation. A sex doll, it added, might consist of an entire body with face, or just a head, pelvis or other partial body, with the accessories for sexual stimulation.

These dolls have been created to look like real people to fulfil and satisfy the desires of those who purchase them. With the expected coming of the dolls into the Nigerian markets, there have been debates regarding their contributions to relationships and marriages.

Mrs. Doris Anyaoha, who has been married for 23 years, told SUNDAY PUNCH that sex dolls could not be good for the Nigerian society.

Anyaoha stated, “I think it will do more harm than good because it makes you imagine things that you should not imagine. It makes you go out of the limits that God has set. You are just dealing with plastics, metals, etc and using it on your skin. I think it is a perversion.”

Anyaoha is not alone in her line of thought. Mrs. Chinwe Atuba, who held a similar view, added that it was not only wrong but also bad for the health of the person using it. “It involves inserting foreign objects into one’s body. I think such is bad,’’ Atuba said.

According to her, sex is not a do-or-die affair as it is better to engage in it with one’s spouse as opposed to using sex dolls.

Saying sex was created to take place between two married people, Fagboungbe said there could not be real enjoyment in using a sex doll.

He referred to the use of sex doll as ‘precarious enjoyment.’ “If you are watching people dancing, you are happy and moving your body. But it does not make you the dancer. The satisfaction cannot be as deep as when you are the one using your body to do the deed,” the lecturer said.

Fagboungbe insisted that as much as a person might try to get sexual satisfaction from an object, it could not be compared to the real thing.

There have been cases in the western world where people developed deep attraction for dolls and in some extreme situations, married them.

This is perhaps the reason why Mr. Love Itseghosimhe views sex dolls as a threat to marriage. Itseghosimhe, who has been married for over a decade, said smuggling dolls into the concept of marriage could portend danger and bring about some level of unfaithfulness.

He stated, “If I am married and I am using a sex doll to satisfy my sexual urge, then why am I married in the first place?”

Atuba argued that a married person using a sex doll was sending a message to his or her partner that he or she was deriving pleasure elsewhere. “For my husband to get one, that means he is getting satisfaction from somewhere else. It is like your husband is cheating on you,” she added.

Fagboungbe also stated that if a married person brought home a sex doll, the act could leave the other partner feeling replaced.

He said, “It has a lot of psychological implications as there is a love attraction between partners. If you bring home a sex doll, it means you have psychologically replaced the other person and that means, the person is of no value to you.

“This kind of idea and invention has led to the disorganisation of many marriages in the western world and it can produce devastating effects on the family.’’

However, there are some people who believe that sex dolls may be able to solve some problems in marriages especially in the provision of an outlet for sex-starved spouses.

But Anyaoha argued that sex dolls shouldn’t be considered by married couples let alone brought into the home by any of them.

“It is not something I can be comfortable with. If couples are going through difficult times especially in the area of sexual matters, the best thing is for them to speak to one another as opposed to using sex dolls as replacements,’’ Anyaoha said.

Another married man, Mr. Ochuko Okoye, said there was no reason for couples to consider using sex dolls.

According to Fagboungbe, those who believe that the use of sex dolls prevents infidelity use that as a form of rationalisation to cheat on their partners.

He advised couples having issues with their sexual lives to deeply talk about the best way to resolve their challenges rather than seeking assistance in sex objects.

(Dolapo Akitoye writes about sex dolls and the perspectives of married couples about them)

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Twin sisters marry twin brothers in twinsburg town, by twin ministers

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Twin sisters, Brittany and Briana Deane, in a wedding ceremony officiated by identical twin ministers in a town called Twinsburg, said ‘I Do’ to twin brothers Josh and Jeremy Salyers.

The Sun reported that the brothers both popped the question at the same time and even the date of the proposal was also a nod to their connections – February 2. Josh and Jeremy Salyers, 34, met twin sisters Brittany and Briana Deane, 32, last August when they all attended a festival for twins in the town in Ohio, USA.Twin sisters marry twin brothers in twinsburg town, by twin ministers

Disclosing that they had an instant connection, Briana has now married Jeremy, while her sister Brittany married Josh. The ‘Twice Upon a Time’ themed nuptials took place as part of the 2018 Twins Days Festival. The 32-year-old sisters fittingly wore identical dresses while the brothers, 34, sported matching tuxedos.

“It’s really been a fairy tale come true. Marrying twins is something that’s very important to us,” Briana (who married Jeremy) told PEOPLE, describing the ceremony as a “double fairy tale.” “Even when we were little girls I can remember being in kindergarten, knowing that that is what we saw for ourselves.”Twin sisters marry twin brothers in twinsburg town, by twin ministers

Brittany adds: “We knew that the chances were incredibly scarce. The stars had to align for our dreams to come true. I get to marry the man of my dreams and at the same time I get to look over next to me and see my twin sister marrying the man of her dreams.”

And Jeremy said: “You know when you know. We’ve always known our whole life if we were going to be married that it was going to be with twins.”Twin sisters marry twin brothers in twinsburg town, by twin ministers

The couples now plan to all live in the same house and raise their children together. Brittany, who also works with her sister in a law firm, said: “We imagine it will be like two mums and two dads.”

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Love: A Principal Ingredient in Marriage (Part 1) by Pastor Faith Oyedepo

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Topic — Love: A Principal Ingredient in Marriage (Part 1)
Dear Reader,

When God created Adam, He placed him in the beautiful Garden of Eden. Endowed with superior intelligence, God commissioned him to name all cattle, the fowl of the air and every beast of the field (Genesis 2:20). One thing was lacking, however. Adam had no companion to love and communicate with.

After God created Adam, according to Genesis 2:15, “then the Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to tend and keep it.” So, Adam had a responsibility, a job that surely proved to be fascinating for him. Adam explored and learned all about the world—animals, plants, the beautiful and intricate variations of God’s creation. Not only was he learning, God gave him the privilege of naming all the birds and animals and other living creatures (verse 19).

Love: A Principal Ingredient in Marriage (Part 1) by Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Whether Adam knew it or not, God knew something was not right. The Bible says: And the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him (Genesis 2:18). Let’s think for a moment about why it was not good for Adam to be alone. He, of all the physical living creation, was without a helper at his own level (verse 20).

If Adam were by himself for any significant amount of time, imagine how he must have felt when he observed that even animals had their mates. Through Adam’s observations of the animal kingdom, in its masculine and feminine, he would have been constantly reminded that he was the lone human being on the planet. He was a male with no corresponding female.

To provide such a companion, God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; and the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he [or, builded] a woman, and brought her; unto the man (Genesis 2:21, 22). Imagine the surprise and joy of waking up to behold a beautiful woman! Adam called her woman because she was taken out of him. It was then that God stated the purpose of marriage – Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh (Genesis 2:24).She was bone of his bone, and flesh of his flesh. This began the institution of marriage in a relationship of love.

Love is never a magical, mysterious emotion that two people fall into or out of for no apparent reason. The truth is different: Loving relationships must be nurtured. They take work. Love is care and consideration directed toward another person, not just an ethereal emotion.

The work involved in building and preserving the marital bond is well worth the time and effort. Husbands and wives, who are committed to this positive process, often describe their mates as their best friends. This is simply another way of describing the kind of bond God desires for every marriage.

Love: A Principal Ingredient in Marriage (Part 1) by Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Husband and wife must learn to work together in marriage, showing respect and love to each other. Such an approach follows the biblical principles of wives submitting to their husbands and husbands loving and honouring their wives (Ephesians 5:22, 25; 1 Peter 3:1, 7). Establishing family in an atmosphere of love and respect gives the newly married a foundation upon which to build their life together

Love and marriage begin with having a relationship with God, the one Who instituted marriage. Do you wish to invite Him into your marriage? You need to be born again. This is done by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are already born again, rejoice because your case is settled. If you are not yet born again and you desire to do so right now, please pray this prayer with faith in your heart: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

Pastor Faith Oyedepo is the wife of Bishop David Oyedepo, the founder of the Living Faith Church Worldwide a.k.a. Winners’ Chapel, and Senior Pastor of Faith Tabernacle, Canaanland, Ota, Nigeria.

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NBA Star Blake Griffin ordered to pay his ex-fiancee, Brynn Cameron $258,000 a month in Child Support

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NBA Star Blake Griffin ordered to pay his ex-fiancee, Brynn Cameron $258,000 a month in Child Support

NBA star, Blake Griffin, 29, who plays for Detroit Pistons has been ordered to pay his ex-fiancee, actress Brynn Cameron, 32, a whopping $258,000 a month in child support for his two kids.

Blake and Brynn have been battling in court over a nasty paternity case and a separate civil suit where Cameron claimed the NBA star broke off their engagement shortly after he started dating Kendall Jenner when he was still part of the Los Angeles Clippers.

In the court document obtained exclusively by RadarOnline.com, it was claimed in the civil suit that the 29-year-old will give Cameron over $258,000 every month in financial support for their two children, Ford, 5, and Finn, 2.

This means Griffin whose annual income totals to $35 million will pay his ex-fiancee $3 million every year.

According to the documents, both sides who have joint custody of their children were ordered in July to “mutually agree” on school expenses, but the Pistons star would be responsible for extracurricular activities.

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