So many people are battling with issues such as fear of intimacy, rejection, pornography, masturbation, infidelity, lovemaking fantasies, familiarity, stress due to work pressure, aging, caring for aging parents, raising children and household responsibilities, which may contribute to lack of intimacy among partners.
Researchers are persuaded that regular intimacy behavior keeps a marriage strong and fulfilled while lack of it has the potential to destroy any marriage. It is said that a couple living without intimacy will possibly separate within 12 months.
Doug Brown and his wife had been married for 14 years, between juggling with children and jobs they made love three times a month and were doing badly so, together with another couple, they decided to investigate whether regular lovemaking can make a difference in relationships.
They purposed to take time out and work on their relationship by making love daily. They purchased various resources on how to get fired up and stepped up exercise, took trips and created the romantic ambiance wherever they went.
They chronicled their experiences documented in two books, “Just Do It: How One Couple Turned Off the TV and Turned On Their Hot Lives for 101 Days (No Excuses!)” by Doug Brown and “365 Nights: A Memoir of Intimacy” by Charla Muller with Betsy Thorpe. The couples established that the experiment strengthened their marriage holistically.
Can daily lovemaking really save a marriage going through drama, disappointment and discord? I would say yes and no! Yes as discovered by the Browns and Mullers.
They had a vision and set out to accomplish it, purposing to make love daily certainly made a difference because firstly, both partners were in a project “daily lovemaking” together, that is teamwork and team spirit which is important in marriage.
The Muller’s had been married for eight years according to his wife, when she embarked on the “the year of the gift” to celebrate her husband’s 40th birthday, who admits having suffered performance anxiety. She acknowledges that frequent lovemaking made them happier, less angry, and less stressed.
Secondly, lovemaking has many benefits, so purposing to have it daily has many rewarding benefits, certainly strengthening relationships. Regular lovemaking helps boost the immune system, lowers blood pressure, lowers heart attack risks, boosts libido, improves women’s bladder control, reduces the risk of prostate cancer, reduces stress and depression, keeps skin completion glowing, improves self-esteem and confidence, Improves sleep, enhancing joy and happiness and total well-being. Surely, these benefits are worth considering a daily dose!
According to researchers, regular lovemaking triggers the lovemaking drive, enhances romance and attachment, along with confidence and general wellness as a result of produced hormones; testosterone, dopamine, and oxytocin which are achieved with regular lovemaking activity.
We can therefore all agree that regular lovemaking is good for your health, your self-esteem and your relationship. It certainly will give you a boost of energy. Here are a few tips to keep you going:
Lack of communication concerning any intimacy issues can challenge any relationship. Be open, compassionate and proactive. Do not keep any issues too long before you talk about it, you will need to take an active role and spice up your act. Structure your time together and purpose to enjoy your date night.
2. Do not keep a record of wrong
Keeping a record of wrong becomes a stumbling block and hinders intimacy.You may have serious issues, ranging from trust, infidelity and emotional abuse. Seek to turn a new leaf together, seek therapy if necessary. If you are suffering guilt because you blame yourself for your spouse’s faults, remember, it is never about you.
3. Celebrate milestones together
Take the opportunity to celebrate milestones together; birthdays, anniversaries, graduations or any achievement that comes your way.
Choose to see the positive side of everything and learn to count your blessings every day, for life is a gift from God without guarantee for yet another day.